HOW CAN SEXUAL ENERGY BE USED TO BREAK OLD HABITS AND PATTERNS?
Marvin Gaye coined the term, and many of us have sang along in the car…but have you ever stopped to think about how sex can actually heal you?
In Tao Tantra sexual energy is said to hold a lot of our ancestral chi. What this means is that there are codes in our DNA that create our patterns and habits, many of which keep us stuck in unhealthy behaviours. In classical tantra this is described in terms of karma. You are born with certain patterns that come from ancestral lines and possibly also past lives (up to you how much you can digest that concept) and in order to evolve your journey of healing lies in releasing these patterns.
Easier said than done!
The trouble is, these ancestral patterns are sticky! How many times have you heard the story of the woman raised with a violent dad who then attracts a violent husband? Or the guy who’s mother put him down who then marries the woman who does exactly that! These are examples of our karma, or patterns that we carry which really do not serve us.
Now it’s not enough to just see our patterns (although this is a huge step and helps them become more conscious). How many times have you seen a problem behaviour and yet still found yourself repeating it? That’s because the behaviour is the tip of an iceberg, and the whole iceberg has to be melted to really change things on a permanent basis.
Tao Tantra sees sexual energy as a very heavy sticky energy at the base level. This corresponds with the lower chakras, energy centres that are associated with survival and instincts. These ancient systems say that the sexual energy actually holds the unconscious patterns that drive us (sexual energy is the energy you feel when you get turned on and that fuels your sexual behaviours). Have you ever noticed that you tend to get sexually attracted to people who trigger your deepest issues?!!!! Well Tao Tantric theory says that is not an accident! We are drawn to certain partners because there is the potential of sexual healing.
However, note the word POTENTIAL. It is not enough to follow our sexual urge wherever it carries us! Because Tao Tantric theory also says that in order to actually release yourself from attachment to these patterns, you have to raise the energy to a higher vibration. This is where Tao Tantric Lovemaking comes in.
Practitioners of these arts learn to cultivate the energy and raise it upwards. As the energy moves up through different pumps, or chakras, it refines. Rather like in an oil refinery where the crude oil is converted to refined oil through a series of processes. Taoists understood the spine as carrying a series of pumps; Tantrics saw this process energetically through wheel-like chakras. It boils down to the same thing: through full-body orgasmic techniques the dense sexual energy can transform into a lighter more refined energy in a process of purification that releases old unhealthy habits.
Another way of looking at this is that some of our patterns of behaviour are of a lower vibration than others. As we raise our base energy up through our body, the vibration raises. We can “lift our spirits”, as they say. Tao Tantric practitioners often report that they can lift heavier emotions, such as depression, through their practices.
Now it all sounds like good news. But the flip side of this is that if you are not raising the energy, when you engage in sex you may stir up all the karmic “mud” and just experience lots of crap with your sexual partner!! Have you ever noticed how relating with a sexually intimate partner goes into muddy areas that non-sexual relationships rarely ever touch? Some people prefer to keep away from sexual relating altogether to avoid stirring up the silt from the bottom of the riverbed!
However, Tao Tantra comes back time and time again to the metaphor of the lotus that grows out of the mud. If you learn how to raise sexual energy, you can use sexuality for healing and transformation, rather than as a catalyst for emotional dramas! And what a great way to heal!
HOW TO BECOME A TAO TANTRIC LOVER
Well, it’s not an overnight-job, but there are ancient systems of Taoism and Classical Tantra that can guide you towards raising sexual energy…and you don’t even need a partner to learn!
It’s actually though Tantric Yoga, Taoist Qigong, meditations and breathwork that we can make this shift. Tantric Massage is also an excellent way to evolve…though it is important to search for a practitioner who has their own daily practice and know what Tantra is, as many people use this term for nothing more than an erotic massage. So look around and ask for a teacher who can guide this transition.
Please note: there is absolutely no need to engage sexually with a teacher to learn! Solo practices performed on a yoga mat, fully-clothed, can take you into the realm of tantric lovemaking. And besides: remember that it is those whom you are naturally attracted to and fall in love with who are often the strongest catalysts for your healing!
So, who knows whether Marvin Gaye was a secret Tao Tantric practitioner or not! But the good news is, we all have the potential to learn! Learn the tools: TaoTantricArts.com Find the up-coming movie: SexToSpirit.com Connect to the Online platform: LiveTantra.com
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